Are You a Friend??

Hi Fellas, This is my first Blog Post and I hope you all will like it. It’s a bit lengthy so I request you all to bear with me.

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But before we begin this Journey, on the eve of Friendship Day let me first wish you All a Happy Friendship Day, Evening or Night (as applicable) and wish that May this bond stay unbroken till we die.


Cheesy enough?? Now let's get straight back to the topic or shall I say, Ask the person standing on the opposite side of the mirror a question, "Are you a Friend??"
There is nothing called a Real Friend or a JLT (Just Like That) Friend. Either you ARE, or simply, you’re not. Yes, there is a prefix, "Best" that is attached to the term "Friend" sometimes, to define a person who according to you, is always BEST from the REST. But what does it really mean? If your friend says you are one of his “BEST Friends” then either your friend does not know you or you are truly an exception and I am not talking about exceptions here. (Dear Exception - Your friends are lucky to have you… Now Buzz off from here!)
For the rest we seldom find that kind of a person. Yes, I am right, it’s a myth. People nowadays switch between their modes so quickly that they become friends in a click and lose ALL of that in no time or after sometime.


But, is Friendship that easy or easily available? The answer is yes, and that's why it's being exploited so much, and is getting exhausted to such an extent, that people nowadays do not care about its existence any more. They are happy with the “Feeling” called friendship.

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Few questions:
1.   What happened to those good old days when you believed being loyal to your partner or giving them respect is being true to the commitment made to them?
2.   Why can't we do that with our friends?
3.   Why can't we call Friendship a Relation?
4.   Doesn't it have all the necessary ingredients?

If your answer is yes then why the commitment always lacks from “Friendship”? Why we segregate ourselves and our friend circles from each other to certain specific boundaries? Categorize(ing) them in different sections with specific norms. Why can't we appreciate the fact that this relationship requires the maximum amount of affection and commitment when nothing else in one's world is left?

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There is a saying "A Man is always known by the kind of friends He Has".
The same saying goes for the other gender as well. That is one group of mankind that believes to their core in the saying, "Keep Your Enemies Closer". I think that is why they are always seen together and I must say they get along P-R-E-T-T-Y well (or atleast they pretend that in front of others). The most dangerous of their kind but sometimes lucky too.
But let me talk to my fellow Men out here.
Brother’s, you can’t have your fingers in too many pies at a time. It cannot be done (period). If you think that you master the art of friendship by boasting on that 1500+ Friend List (this goes for girls as well) you got there on Facebook (or max retweets on Twitter) (or you’re the uncrowned G+ King), then my friend, it's time for a reality check.


Think… (For a change)
How many of your friends consider “YOU” a friend? (*Conditions Applied*)
1.   A person who can become the one they want him/her to become at that given point of time.
2.  Or the one who can transform their emotions in a click.
3.  Can they rely on you?
4.  Can they fight with you and then pester you so much that you go and talk and make up with them?
5.   Are you the one??
6.   Have your "friends" done that with you??

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Find the answers and match the count with your stats & figures of friends that you possess and you have your answer.
They will work quite as an Eye opener. But need not to be Sad, it happens. You are a mortal and only a human being is allowed to makes mistakes. One always has notions and misconceptions about one's self that are many times, far more distant than the truth.


Now, the question comes, why and where did it all go wrong??


Take a deep breath and try to remember all those times and moments which you spent with your peers from school, college, tuitions, current or ex office colleagues and many more such relations whom you called “friends”. Are you still in touch with them? No, right?? Not even me. But what happened to all those people?? If you bump with one of them from your old times, what will be your reaction? Will you ignore or give them that Bear Hug? 
Time to ponder everyone!!

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Now think of a few outings or parties that you attended with them. How was it? 
Were YOU there to have fun or you were just enjoying the feeling that people actually care and miss you when you are not around. If you choose the first then YOU are in a mess my friend.

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When did that complex sink in so deep that you started to think only about yourself? Is it that works pressure or studies or stress or (Global Warming) that has taken a toll on you so much, that it has erased all the emotions of being a friend? You do not care any more; you have stopped listening; not to them, but to yourself as well. Remember the time when you use to fall every time as a toddler while trying to walk and there was a hand that silently said, “You should get up and try again”. Be it anyone's hand but it was the one thing that helped you. It’s TIME and the clock is ticking. Get up and get going. Ring them or send a SMS, social websites are not for going through profiles of hot guys and gals, the basic Funda of Mr. Zuckerburg was to make new friends. And the profile of that unknown girl you are stalking upon doesn't on the top it says, “Add as a Friend”.

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So, take the first step. Why can't you be the one that helped your friend rather than waiting to get something in return? Do you know that other person is thinking the same thing?
Give them the affection they are so desperately craving for, before they ask for it.
Do you know how easy it is?
A couple of minutes from your life dedicated to them can completely change their outlook towards you or their own life.
You just have to lend a patient ear, provide a strong shoulder, some confident words and a calm & soothing voice.
I know, you must be wondering, what if they don’t respond back with the same things when you need them?
Sometimes "My Friend" you have to do the Job and that's what is meant for you. If you do it and succeed then you will prove yourself as an HUMAN BEING.
Believe me, these things can bring magic and a smile on your face also a smile to all their faces who ever called you a “FRIEND”. Give it a TRY!! All the Best!!

My first Post ends here, do leave your feedback and criticism, both will be appreciated, also the Fan Page in Face Book will be open for a follow up poll after this. Do Like the following link and make sure you participate in that.

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Until the next post, Live Life King Size with No Regrets!!


Cheerio,
Sushmit Banerjee